Don’t Be A Mollusk

Dear Kirsten,

Go outside. Do something. Talk to someone.  I’m telling you. Go. I don’t care if it’s raining, just go out and smell the air around you or make a conversation and just stop pecking in front of the computer screen. Trust me, there’s plenty of time to do that later.

A good writer needs worldly experience. She needs to go out and go places and do things and meet people to draw inspiration from. You know that. Or I do. This whole writing from the future thing is confusing. I don’t know what I can talk about. I’m not even sure if I could tell you about what happened last May, though you’d be ecstatic. All I can say is that you need to get out of your shell more. It will only do you good.

See, there’s a reason humans don’t have shells. It’s because we, unlike the assorted sea mollusks sitting at the bottom of the ocean, need to talk to each other. Communicate. Socialize. People need each other, there’s no denying it. You’re not doing anybody a favor by hiding in the protective shell of a room.

I know it’s scary to exit the shell you’ve made yourself. It’s scary to expose your sensitive, squishy underbelly to the world, because you know it will be poked by somebody vicious. Unfortunately, that hurts. I know.

But when you expose your squishy underbelly to the right people, you’ll find what you want: friends. Deep down, your most desperate desire is to form deep connections with others, something that you haven’t gotten the chance to do because of the people you’ve met so far. But just keep trying, and looking, and you will find them.

I know it’s hard to believe, especially when you sit in your room all day, alone and pretty much friendless. I know it’s hard to see when every time you think about exposing your underbelly, they exploit it. I know it’s inconceivable that you will ever find friends when you’re so different from anyone you’ve ever met. Some days, you just want to give up and live life all alone as a hermit, preferably somewhere with Wi-Fi, so you could still watch YouTube videos and Google things. 

Don’t! Don’t lose faith in finding friends or love or happiness, because you will. I know. I’ve been there. You know those stories that you peck out on the keyboard? Keep up with that. It’ll help. You know those books and movies and television shows you love? Keep on loving them. Oh, and hang out at libraries more. You’ll find some like-minded people more.

But most of all, don’t be afraid. Why should you be? You’re a lovely young lady whom I care for deeply and a true pleasure to be around. Listen to the people who compliment you; they’re right. Anybody would be glad to have you as a friend. And it’s a rather low chance that a stranger will bite.

Futuristically Yours,


P.S. You really should stop biting your nails.  


6 thoughts on “Don’t Be A Mollusk”

  1. I really like this post Kirsten. There are many experiences in life that we could miss if we stay inside our shell. One of my regrets is that I wasn’t more open and friendly in high school. I hope your letter to yourself helped and that you have started on your journey to explore more. P.S. I am struggling to stop biting my nails too 🙂


  2. and now I am going out living just a short comment to tell you that you have great post here!! Since we moved to UK I’m spending most of my time in front of computer, me who if has to be closed in house would die like a plant without sun! I’ve changed a lot, I mean my habits, but I feel that my spirit is suffering a lot because of it, my spirit and my body. Probably because I miss my friends and people I was spending all this time out… probably… I don’t know but you are right, we shouldn’t be afraid of going out and find a new ones!

    This supposed to be short comment (insert giggle)
    Have a great day and look forward to reading more from you!!


  3. These are terrific thoughts you are expressing and the “experience” of the world can enrich and inform our keyboard tapping work enormously.

    Spending the time to record our thoughts is important, but it is so easy to lose sight of what we are talking about if we don’t get out there.

    Opening ourselves up to all the varieties of experience and not necessarily limiting ourselves in that way can result in some difficult moments, to be sure, but many times, those difficulties can help us figure things out more than other more satisfying experiences.

    This message needs to be heard by a lot more people!!

    John H.


  4. I like how you related a shy person’s shell to that of an mollusk. I relate to this letter because I’m originally and naturally shy and introverted. Finding like-minded people is one of the main reasons why I created this website. You built a fortress to protect yourself. Well, it’s dangerous. The more isolated you are, the harder it is to break out of isolation when you choose to-it sinks you deep into a quick sand without you noticing. Same thing applies to me because I isolate myself as well. The good thing about this letter is that you are recognizing it and hopefully will apply what your future-self told you. You said this was confusing to write. Was it? Didn’t read like it.

    P.S. I know you just celebrated your 150th post on your blog so thought I let you know you posted the 50th letter here.


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